Super Party

Only until midnight? Neighbors have loud parties occasionally. If they become frequent, then complain to the managing agent. It being the super and the music Spanish doesn't enter into it.

sounds like a SUPERPARTY! too bad the guy is stuck in some dead park ave building with annoying lame neighbors who need their beautyrest on the one friday night he, who is usually very quiet, wants to celebrate something important enough to have a loud party.

both neightbors' parties and my own, when i used to have parties about a million years ago, went on until the cops pulled up, shone their big light into the window and announced to the entire street, "ok, guys, that's enough". residential streets uws/ues. in retrospect, it was perhaps a tad inconsiderate. but we thought, f8ckem, if they're cool, they'll just come over. if they're not, who cares what they think? ah, youth...

I think you are out of line. Your building has decided to compensate this guy with an apartment in lieu of, say, $40K pre-tax. You have expectations on how he should behave, but you cannot expect it of him 24 hours a day every day. He is living his life and having an occasional party. I'd guess he cut it off at midnight out of respect for his neighbors.

not to mention that pissing off the super over something this trivial is not smart.

sounds like a good time. the annoying kids in my building play terrible music (dave matthews-ish) and blast it until 2am on weekend nights and i still don't complain. mostly because this is new york city not scarsdale. i don't want to come down on you here but you really sound like a bit of a pain in the a**. it would be a really dumb move on your part to complain about this. see how fast things get fixed after...

the pain in the a** comment was directly in response to you feeling you had to point out the music was spanish. i don't think i need to tell you how that came across. should be obvious.

that, in your words, represents "the worst part of new yorkers"

You've been living there for what, a year? and you've been bothered ONCE by noise, and you think his having ONE party in that time, that went on to all of midnight, is "inappropriate"? Get a life.

At least it wasn't Mexican music

This site "sucks wind" because you posted a question and got some opionions you didn't like, instead of getting affirmation of your outrage over the party?

Oh, that's right,I forgot, you never liked advice you got on this site as you dithered over buying, even when it was thoughtful and well-meaning.

Mhillqt, the Spanish thing aside, your post seems to indicate that you expect different behavior from this neighbor because he is the super. Is that correct?

You just said he rarely does this so why would you complain? Suppose for some reason you want to have a party, will the super call the cops on you to get revenge? It's over. Done with. If it happens weekly it's a problem. If it happens 2-4 times a year deal with it. Come on now. You knew the answer

I'm with you Mhillqt. At the very least the building should have posted a notification in the lobby or possibly held a plebiscite. Very presumptuous supers you have there on Park Ave.

Does anyone know of a site that will only tell me what I want to hear?

"I live next to the super in a park avenue apartment. Usually he is very quiet but last night had a party with LOUD spanish music playing till midnight.....I realy like him and dont want to discourage him from living his life here but do you think it was inappropriate ?"

Um YES ... very inappropriate.

Loud music at ANY time is inappropriate, at night or during the day, Friday or any other day of the week, Park Avenue or not.

How very Queen of England of you. What "predicament" are you talking about? Someone has a party once a year, on a Friday night and stops the music at midnight? That's the epitome of consideration, not a predicament.

A party until midnight on Friday or Saturday is totally acceptable, in my opinion. On a weeknight, maybe a different story, but even then, only maybe. Midnight is pretty early by New York standards.

I don't think you have a right to complain, period. If in the odd chance you have a job that requires you to work early mornings on a weekend (like an ER nurse/doctor or something), you may want to ask your neighbor to let you know in advance so that you can prepare by sleeping in the living room, wearing earplugs, etc. on the occasional nights he wants to have a party.

Bullshit alert ----> "and yes, i would be asking this even if the next door neighbor was not the super....."

Why then was it necessary to make the point about it being the super mhill?

Aw, c'mon, folks, lay off Mhillqt. S/he w as only asking a question and really does not deserve a full-on SE skewering over it.

Mhillqt--while I do agree with the other posters that an occasional loud party--especially when it falls on a weekend night--is not inappropriate (especially when the music stops at a reasonable hour) if you are really concerned you should consult your co-op's bylaws about noise. Personally, I don't think this one incident is anything to worry about--sounds like the super is a nice guy and considerate as well. Now if this becomes a regular event, that's a different story...

By the way--on the rare occasions we plan a large party we always invite the neighbors. That way, instead of being irked by noise, they get to be part of the fun.

As Bramstar suggests, there's another more friendly and perhaps more productive option.

When you see your super, let him know the party sounded like great fun and that next time you'd like to be invited. Try to sound like you mean it.

Mhill: Check your building's house rules. Some say 10pm on weeknights and midnight on weekends.
Speak to him about it only if it becomes a regular thing and he's partying past no-noise-rule time.

When you see him today, ask if he's got any left-overs.
You might score some tasty chimichangas. Ole!

All my homies tellin, me, ain't no love for a real G
You straight cowards all you playa haters kill me
Throw up your hands if you feel me
We gettin dollars homey Holla If You Hear Me
It's one time for my comrades doin bad lockdown
Fresh out bust the top and bounce drop down
Can you visualize perfection?
Cause every rider in my set labelled a vet best in their profession
Don't hold your breath, stick to Smith and Wessun
Steady study your lessons to keep the crowd guessin

Supergangsta inda hOOOOOuse!

from the gang called Ni$$as with attitudes

marco: Paint it black, you devil! lol!

truth, do you understand that's what nwa stands for? he's not just saying that word for fun.

lucille: "nwa": It's the name of the rap group that sings that song. (not a big fan of rap music, but it's a free country.)

It's his reference to "from the gang" that's funny.( I think they got a letter from the SE teacher, they've been on better behavior lately.)

and, marco likes to talk paint color selection.

actually its part of the opening from the song called "straight outta compton"....old school. Paint it black is an excellent song as well.

Straight out of Compton.

Isn't that 2Pac anyway?

it writes from a windowless studio.
the smell, thick with cat piss and aspirin.
it's gnarly fingers, dirty unclipped nails pound feverishly at the keyboard that connects it to life outside the self imposed chamber like prison.
as it has been a shut in for life, it all seems normal.
we say this because we care, when we see those abused cats and dogs on TV and the ask is for money...we think of you. This is why we say...please take your meds.

you can do better than cat lady. your mentor could have. now THAT would have been a worthy adversary. not you though, fattie with a lime green kitchen counter.

Hostile and juvenile.

the cat lady stuff? totally. i'm a dog person!

Falco - the bruising encounter with the coop board seems to have seriously unhinged you. You used to be amusing - now you're just - what?

ph41: Just not amusing. and a racist.

lucille: You and ph41 have both seen falcogold?!
"fattie with a lime green kitchen counter" LOL!!!

fattie with a lime green kitchen counter

that's the dream!
lime green counter! actually...ceaserstone, apple martini! how the heck did you know that?

the bruising encounter with the coop board....what are you talking about?

I didn't write anything about having cats.

Falco - I remember your post about inviting everyone for Cristal and cigars on the terraced penthouse you had just bought. Then silence. And not too long ago your post on a coop board which seemed to have very stringent financial requirements for prospective purchasers, which were more than just heavy downpayment, low mortgage. Seemed like a heartfelt post from someone who had had a turndown from a coop board.

Cristal and cigars?! LOL!!!

Falco - no mindreading required - you posted your choice of apple martini caesarstone for counters, leading to a question from NYC10023 if you had bought a new apartment.

ph41: I was inviting them to your penthouse!

Neither of you have met me and I never wrote anything about lime green countertops.
What is amazing is that I have been trying to make a decision about counter tops all week and the color is apple martini...that's friggin amazing!
Never turned down by the coop board...closed at the end of the summer.

lucillebluth: we know who you are. ( amazing call on the counters)
ph41: always an amusement
Truth: get some help

Falco - bulls---t you're still looking. And you were inviting everyone to YOUR soon to be penthouse home. I called you out on this before.

MotherofGawd does everything have to be debated on this site - deal or complain. your two choices. you sound like a conflicted tween "i really like him but....."

*scratching head*

lucillebluth: we know who you are. ( amazing call on the counters)

not amazing, you posted the apple martini counters a few days ago. i'll bite, who am i? who are "we"? how do you know the information you claim to know? have you penetrated streeteasy's info? or do you have someone who works for streeteasy? can't make statements like that, self admitted fattie who recently placed an order to those lime green counters. i call your bluff. i tend to call people's bluffs.

islucilletoughorjuststupid?

does your statement serve to confirm that there is indeed a group of people here who are, indeed, gathering information about posters? what do you do with this information? do you have my picture? my bra size?

once again, columbiacounty, a racist, near bankrupt idiot with anger issues, proves he can type without the space bar.

Good for you boy.

islucilletoughorjuststupid?

i think the better question would be is falcogold tough or stupid, because i do believe he just implied all those things with his statement of a "we" knowing who "i am".

lucilleisstupid

columbiacountyisracist

fuck you hfscomm1

columbiacounty, are one of the we who "knows who i am"? what do you think? i look good, right? is that why you've been so angry with me? because to get a woman who looks like me to not press charges after you touched her, you would have pay UP?

try to work on reading skills.

wait, but you though *i* was hfscomm1. so do you know who hfscomm1 is?

you.

columbiacounty, any more racist anti-Asian comments today?

yeah, lucille:

A racist, alkie enabler bully-gang-member; ordering me to get some help.

Those kids up in Harlem, being raised by single moms have a better chance at growing up to be decent human beings; than if they had him for a father.

this is why I won't buy something on Park Ave

getting back to the questions...
it was one time, not big deal, midnight is absolutely within reason.
not sure why you posted this question as you know the answer... but i have learned when you do expect some answers you don't like. or don't post!

M, it's annoying when you're inconvenienced & have to put up with other's noise but we're adults & we know that the world doesn't always cater to us, alas. Too bad, I'm sorry for you, BUT your post did indeed betray the feeling of 'the help' inconveniencing you so that's an attitude you need to work on. The Building Superintendant is a professional who is working to maximize your real estate investment NOT your blue collar peon. As others have said, only if this becomes a recurring situation do you say anything.

at first i actually thought this post was an april fools joke. i didn't think there were still people who went out of their way to point out things like they live on PARK avenue (cause that matters?), that the neighbor in question is the SUPER aka "the help" (cause that matters?), and that the music in question was muy caliente SPANISH music (cause that matters?)
what is it about loud music from the neighbors that makes these things relevant? is it that Park is better than anywhere else so you shouldn't be having these issues? or that it's a servant worker so he shouldn't have a normal life or normal rights? or that the music was spanish and gee that's really annoying cause you couldn't translate the lyrics?
i still hold out hope this was actually a joke post

oh, park avenue with a small "p"
jason - great post. I am afraid this is not an April Fool's thread - the EasyStreet logo is gone.
Falco is so much funnier when not teed off.

>and gee that's really annoying cause you couldn't translate the lyrics?

Thanks, that made me laugh.

Thank you JasonKyle!

NWT - like I said, you're amazing, sometimes scary, but amazing!! (I am so glad I bought my coop before 2005!!!)

In this case for more than just the pre-bubble reasons.

Calm down. Your ellipses threw me into a fit of irritation and I gave in to temptation.

I didn't reveal where you live. You did that yourself last year, as we followed your waffling between the one you bought at 16, the one at 10, and the one up the street.

>yet you publicly lynch someone for practically nothing

And, once you calm down, please also look up the definition of "lynch." Your use of hyberbole makes me queasy.

I'm sure you did not intend that post to sound a trifle snooty and racist, but it did sound that way to enough people that perhaps you might think a bit more about how what you wrote actually prompted the reactions it prompted.

I still think asking your super to invite you over next time and/or provide leftovers is a nice idea!

This is most easily taken care of by looking into the house rules provisions. If the provisions clearly state that each tenant is allowed quiet and peaceful enjoyment of their own premises during certain hours (usually between 11 pm and 8 am, though that can vary) then it doesn't matter how often they party or what day of the week they party or what music they're playing. They either abide by the same rules that govern everyone equally in the building, or you can start by writing the managing agent and/or the board. And of all people, the super should know the rules.

party pooper!

Mhillqt,
your outrage about your treatment here sounds a tad disingenuous. you've lived in new york since at least the 80s, that we know of, there is no way you would have expressed your "dilemma" in the language you used in real life. you know it sounded wrong, you did it here because this is anonymous. but, oops, they know who you are here, and now real Mhillqt's real feelings are hurt. you'll get over it. and i join the chorus encouraging you to chat up your super, find out what he was celebrating, if anything, and congratulate him. use this as a way to get CLOSER to your sup, dummy. you want your super on your side. you WANT him to like you and be nice to you, it's why people tip obscene amounts at holidays, give bday $, everyone sucks up to the super and the staff. geez, some people.

now back to the relly important issue. is there or is there not a merry band of stalkers operating on streateasy, gathering information about hapless oversharing posters, to be used later in sinister extortion schemes?

The answer is YES, Lucy, YES.

cyber bullying? oh come on. people are pointing out how your own post sounded. the usual last line of defense for someone who knows they made a mistake is to claim victimization. it's not that deep. give a little thought to what you post next time. or deal with people's honest reactions.

Mhillqt,
no one is cyberbullying you, much less lynching you. but really, accidentally run into your sup on purpose, force yourself to pretend you know how to interact with people (practice in front of a mirror if need be), make polite small talk, ask how the party went, what was the occasion (if something normal people would normally find significant, CONGRATULATE HIM, and maybe later pick up a card), when the time comes, you'll be able to tip less, but he'll still like you more. people are funny like that, THEY LIKE AND RESPOND TO NICE PEOPLE.

i forgot to mention what is mot important to YOU. should he ever have the need to enjoy the complany of loved ones in a festive get together in his own home, he will be that much more likely to give you the heads up and be more considerate of your needs.

they don't prove your point at all. you're post was a little silly so we all had some fun pointing that out. life is much better with a sense of humor. and to wrap up all my thoughts on this topic here is what i do:
i just knock on my neighbors door and say "hey next time you have a party tell me before so i know what to expect. and i will do the same."

drdrd, i knew it. did they hit you up for their prescription drug dealing ring? levothroid is big bucks, i hear.

you asked if it was appropriate for your super, who is nice and is usually very quiet, in your park ave building where you pay a lot in maintenance, to have a party with loud spanish music lasting until the very reasonable hour of midnight on a friday night. and i would say, as in your case, people are actually not so nice here, and quite nice and civilized in real life. that's the beauty of internet. if you said what you said in real life, people would have yelled at your person, and some boisterous toughs would have possibly threatened physical violence. here though, you can just read some bitchy snips on a computer screen. or you can not read them, it's up to you. anywho, good luck, and really do be nice to your super. you need this ally on the battlefield of life.

M, I've read your post numerous times & I still get an 'I'm white & legal & affluent & this (illegal?) immigrant WORKS FOR ME ~ perhaps you inadvertently betrayed some unpleasant attitudes you're not even too happy with yourself, maybe not, only you can say, but that's the underlying tone I get. I don't mean to be unpleasant but Y O U asked for feedback. You got it.

Lucy, I'm just joking about the cyber-stalking on StreetEasy. Yeah, there are a few wackos & you never know what statement you make may be remembered by someone (& I do try to be circumspect about what I share) but most of us, I think, are just terrific & not lunatic.

"Yeah, there are a few wackos & you never know what statement you make may be remembered by someone "

ooohh! i like!

it's not lunatic to remember things. i think it just means you're smart.