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The most annoying neighbors of all time

Started by noDiggitynoDoubt
over 8 years ago
Posts: 71
Member since: Jan 2009
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I am so happy in my apartment, first, it's nearly doubled in price in 5 years, I love the building, I love the location. Now, I remember back in the day, the street easy gang told me to pick one to love: the apartment, the building, the location, but not all! Nobody told me about the neighbors. I need some tips. I need to not take it all personally but wow they are annoying. Slamming doors, messing up the recycling area, noise and leaving stuff in the hallways. The super is very attentive and addresses it all straight away but it has become a full time job being on top of these very inconsiderate neighbors. I want to stop the paying attention. What to do?
Response by noDiggitynoDoubt
over 8 years ago
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And it's Friday night just before dinner and I am posting! I'm desperate, I'm replying to myself.

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Response by 300_mercer
over 8 years ago
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Talk to them and lower your expectations. Do they find you too demanding.

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Response by 300_mercer
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Why get bent out of shape about recycling area?

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Response by 300_mercer
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Response by steve123
over 8 years ago
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If they aren't interrupting your sleep, then count your blessings.

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Response by noDiggitynoDoubt
over 8 years ago
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Listen up, 300 Mercer...the only thing I like about you is your garage guys, it involves car washes and chocolate chip cookies...and the only thing high maintenance about me is my maintenance bill. Stop asking silly questions. Do you want a whack recycling area. I think. Not. And Steve, good reality check. Except they do interrupt my sleep. Thank God for my Ambience app. Such a good white noise app. And thank you God for the extra tequila shot tonight.

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Response by noDiggitynoDoubt
over 8 years ago
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And 300 Mercer....one more thing, lowering my expectations is good advice. I'll sleep better tonight. Thanks.

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Response by noDiggitynoDoubt
over 8 years ago
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And thanks to my ambience app too.

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Response by 300_mercer
over 8 years ago
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Diggity, Good luck. If apt living does not work, there are townhouses and suburbs.

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Response by KeithBurkhardt
over 8 years ago
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Wow, first I can't believe it's been five years since you posted your 'stream of consciousness' thread while looking. Congratulations on finding a place you love! I had a similar situation once, very difficult to deal with, turned out our steel frame building didn't have concrete floors between Apartments so it was essentially like living in a drum. I wrote the neighbor a very nice letter explaining how noisy it was in our apartment and essentially removing the blame from them simply enjoying their own space and focusing on the poor construction of the building. They wrote me back and although it wasn't a warm-and-fuzzy letter they sort of understood and made some adjustments, It wasn't perfect but it was much better than it was.

Years later after having moved out I actually saw a news story of two neighbors in my old building battling it out through the courts etcetera. I'm glad I took the path of least resistance and although it was a little uncomfortable writing a letter it accomplished getting us some peace and quiet without a protracted battle. I feel for you because this can be very difficult especially when people's egos get involved. Most people don't like to be told they are Behaving Badly.

Luckily I've been practicing yoga and meditation for the last 30 years, and in
this case it really put my practice to the test

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Response by noDiggitynoDoubt
over 8 years ago
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TBG, I think a letter is a great and simple solution. And thanks for remembering my stream of consciousness! That was in 2009, and finally we bought in the building. The problem is, and the reason for my post, I really don't want to make a big deal of anything and I probably would never approach them. The entire staff knows the deal. They live differently than I do and I guess this is the reminder that this is apartment living. And this is NYC. So maybe I am high maintenance, with a high maintenance bill. I like knowing that I'm not alone. And if I lived in a townhouse, I would probably get annoyed when people like me sit on my steps to imagine that they live there. Oh and I do live in the suburbs too, and just about everyone in the suburbs is annoying. So there you have it, I have been successfully analyzed. It's me. The city has spoiled me...time to go to yoga and complain that the person next to me put their mat too close ;) Happy Saturday

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Response by fieldschester
over 8 years ago
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Can you clarify what neighborhood this is in? Also, the family composition of the neighbors in question?

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